Waiting Well.... What I've Learned Since Being Single
Real talk time - I’ve spent almost the past year as a single lady (Beyoncé voice). And yes, I’m aware that’s not actually THAT much time... but, for someone who’s had boyfriends since 15, it is.
While this past year has had its ups and downs, it’s also been the most beautiful time. You see, after an abusive relationship in high school, I started to believe that my self worth could only be found in a relationship. I relied on other people to make me feel whole.
Time and time again, that faulty belief system left me hurting.
Why? Well, because while I so desperately wanted to love and be loved, I forgot one of the most important love stories of my life - the love I gave myself.
So over this past year, I’ve focused on rebuilding that. I’ve spent time discovering who I am and who God says I am. I’ve healed from the misconception that I’m only worth something if I’m the object of someone else’s affection.
Love is the best and we all want it, but please hear me when I tell you that jumping from one relationship to the next will only get you further away from the healthy, stable relationship you’re seeking.
Not to mention, it’s really unfair to the other person.
Spending time alone is one of the most valuable things you can do, and I pray together we can learn to sit in our impatience and our loneliness in order to love ourselves before the right person can too.