My Voice Won't Be Silenced: This is My Story with Domestic Violence
October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month —
I’ve said before how this is a weird month for me because it’s both the month my sister was born and it’s the month my best friend, Jenna, passed away. What I don’t talk about as much is that October is also the month that my ex boyfriend, who I was in an abusive relationship with for 5 years, also passed away. -
This post may make many who knew him as a friend angry, but my truth still remains- so here goes: I started dating this ex when I was 15 and until I was 20, I endured physical and emotional abuse. I was young and thought I was in love, so I became brainwashed and took years to leave. -
The only reason I did finally leave is because God intervened on my behalf and I got accepted into USC- a school I was not qualified for, knew nothing about and don’t even remember applying for. That is how I know it was God removing me from toxicity and moving me into a new life. -
Then a year after being in LA, I got a call telling me my abusive ex had passed away. His death brought up mixed emotions in me, but mainly ones you wouldn’t normally expect to arise from such a loss. I was confused and mostly angry- mad that he got to leave this world while I was stuck with the scars he left behind.
It’s taken me years to heal from this abuse and today I still struggle, but I’ve become stronger and grown in ways I never thought possible since then. My dear friend, Baily, made me realize that it’s no coincidence that October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, along with being the month my ex passed in, and Baily and this fact has inspired me to share this story. -
If you or someone you love is trapped in such a relationship, it’s time to take action. I am no longer a victim and you don’t have to be either.